shyness & self consiousness
Thu, 13 Nov 2003, 09:26 pmAndrea14 posts in thread
shyness & self consiousness
Thu, 13 Nov 2003, 09:26 pmI am struggling through life because of my shyness. I was raised in a strict catholic family and not allowed to have friends over or go places. I am now in my early 30's and struggling with few friends and I sabotage every wonderful career opportunity that's come my way....which have been a lot. I panic and then pass the opportunity to someone else. The problem I've encountered recently over and over again is people when I meet them saying to me, "are you alright, you look like you're going to have a breakdown, or relax, and they pick up on my problem. I don't know what's happening, but I used to be able to disguise it more and now I'm becoming even more fearful of meeting new people etc. because of all of these recent comments. I just want to hide more. They seem to be happening with almost everyone. I recently put on some weight so I attribute this to that...that my self image has gone down. To sum it up, I am so tired of holding myself back in life this way. It is so painful to know that I am living with this problem and I want to change. What do I do to change this? Any advice as to what's happening with me and I attribute my shyness to the environment I grew up in, am I correct? (although my brothers are not this way) Please help!
Re: The Psychiatrist's away
Mon, 1 Dec 2003, 08:15 pmOk. All right. Everything is all sweetness and light, sugar and spice... the bottom line is, my fervent reply and counter reply are indicative of my impatience when it comes to someone having something quite wrong with them, and getting trite responses. Because my response was hard hitting, does that make it any less sincere or caring? Obviously with you lot, yes. It was the sense that Mya's (yes, the long absent Mya) problem probably runs quite deep, that such inadequacy, that has gone on for so many years, has roots very deep down. Join a group? And what happens when that fails? Who does one hate then? The person who gave the advice? No. The person who has yet again failed.
Also, crgwllms (aka Craig Williams?), don't pompously judge people's content, then proceed to do the very thing you've just censured. That's pretty wanky.
Band aid solutions? The whole point of the expression is deprecating, so when you ask what's wrong with them....
Sentimentality is for plebs. Mya's note, whilst yes, thinking it's really in the wrong place, touched me, because I sensed her frustration.
The brother with a social phobia? To be interested in acting, sounds like he's also suffering from a counter-phobia. Also, it's always the maddest that hate the shrinks. Show me a schizophrenic that loves the psychiatric profession.
Am I a shrink, psychologist, etc? No. Just someone with information. Hope that doesn't threaten you.
Also, crgwllms (aka Craig Williams?), don't pompously judge people's content, then proceed to do the very thing you've just censured. That's pretty wanky.
Band aid solutions? The whole point of the expression is deprecating, so when you ask what's wrong with them....
Sentimentality is for plebs. Mya's note, whilst yes, thinking it's really in the wrong place, touched me, because I sensed her frustration.
The brother with a social phobia? To be interested in acting, sounds like he's also suffering from a counter-phobia. Also, it's always the maddest that hate the shrinks. Show me a schizophrenic that loves the psychiatric profession.
Am I a shrink, psychologist, etc? No. Just someone with information. Hope that doesn't threaten you.
- ···
- ···
- ···
- ···
- ···
- ···
- ···