shyness & self consiousness
Thu, 13 Nov 2003, 09:26 pmAndrea14 posts in thread
shyness & self consiousness
Thu, 13 Nov 2003, 09:26 pmI am struggling through life because of my shyness. I was raised in a strict catholic family and not allowed to have friends over or go places. I am now in my early 30's and struggling with few friends and I sabotage every wonderful career opportunity that's come my way....which have been a lot. I panic and then pass the opportunity to someone else. The problem I've encountered recently over and over again is people when I meet them saying to me, "are you alright, you look like you're going to have a breakdown, or relax, and they pick up on my problem. I don't know what's happening, but I used to be able to disguise it more and now I'm becoming even more fearful of meeting new people etc. because of all of these recent comments. I just want to hide more. They seem to be happening with almost everyone. I recently put on some weight so I attribute this to that...that my self image has gone down. To sum it up, I am so tired of holding myself back in life this way. It is so painful to know that I am living with this problem and I want to change. What do I do to change this? Any advice as to what's happening with me and I attribute my shyness to the environment I grew up in, am I correct? (although my brothers are not this way) Please help!
Re: The Psychiatrist's away
Tue, 25 Nov 2003, 06:56 amWalter Plinge
Catty, No I haven't done a degree in phycology so I apologise for my lack of understanding of the word "ego". Maybe I will read a book or two and so should everyone else reading the post so that we all understand what it was exactly that you meant. I thought your comments were harsh directed to someone who needs encouragement, so we will have to agree to disagree. Also, you should have been responding to Andrea in your opinion and not criticising other people's genuine concern.
Thankyou Craig for the support as you seem to understand where I was coming from.
I have a brother that suffers from extreme social phobia and he has been put into hospital, did they help then? No. Does he still get help? No. He is scared of them. I once called and told him about the lead I got in a ad, and he said "I would like to do that". He showed interest in it....doesn't that say something? I told him that when I have enough money, I will bring him to the state I am in and take him to an intro acting class. That seemed to appeal to him a lot more than getting professional help.
The first step, however Andrea decides to go about it will be hard.....so a casual, not too intense intodroductory class and a good inspirational book is good advice, for a start. Then if she can go and get professional help...sure! I don't remember saying "don't go and do that". Like Craig said, people decide in their own heart what advice to take.
So, I will say no more on this topic, although my comments were coming from a heartache of personal experience not from a degree.
P.S I don't really read Dolly or Cosmo, I just have a sympathetic heart and was offering my encouragement to Andrea.
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