Overcomming Self consciousness
Wed, 9 July 2003, 11:47 amWalter Plinge12 posts in thread
Overcomming Self consciousness
Wed, 9 July 2003, 11:47 amI'm a pretty shy person and i have diffuculty with overwhelming self consciusness in life but when i'm acting it's gone whether it be as a character or myself.
Anyway I'm after any advice for tackling this problem, its not a good way to go through life , I feel as if i'm watching my self all the time without being in tune to whats around me. The more I act with my immagination the more it goes but it keeps comming back when i stop using it.
Thanks
Anyway I'm after any advice for tackling this problem, its not a good way to go through life , I feel as if i'm watching my self all the time without being in tune to whats around me. The more I act with my immagination the more it goes but it keeps comming back when i stop using it.
Thanks
Re: Overcoming Self consciousness
Sun, 27 June 2004, 12:23 pmAl wrote:
>
> Oh how I'd like to act like myself without fear! My problem
> is stage fright. Despite having performed a few times in
> front of people I still get extremely agitated for sometimes
> days before a performance. I can practice a song and do it
> perfectly an hour before going on stage, but once I'm up
> there, my mouth goes dry, I shake like a leaf and instead of
> enhancing the performace with adrenalin, I sabotage it. I
> can happily talk in front of people, give a lecture or an
> address, I even gave a eulogy once, but sing, when it comes
> to the song, it's like I'm totally exposed, like people can
> see right through me and I get through it, but it is never as
> good as I know it could be. Any tips anyone?
Perhaps you can find a sympathetic 'test audience' - a couple of friends or a group of kids or anyone you can sing to where the stakes aren't so high and it doesn't feel like 'a performance.'
This might mean singing your song in an entirely different situation; while you're in the back seat of a mate's car, or while you're walking your dog down the beach....somewhere where you're getting used to singing with people around but there's no particular emphasis on them watching you or critiquing you and it doesn't matter if you just stop. What about singing at the top of your voice while riding a bike down the street? By the time people wonder what you're doing, you've already gone past, no one recognised you under your helmet and sunnies, and anyway it's not about them, it's about you getting used to singing in public.
It doesn't sound like your fear is of the actual singing, but of the exposure. Find some low-stress ways to build up your experience dealing with exposure, and you'll find it gets easier and easier.
Also, as a confidence thing, it might be worth recording yourself singing, and then letting select others hear the recording and give feedback. You can do your best effort by singing on your own, and then all you'll be exposing is a polished tape recording. If everyone likes what they hear, you'll know you'll have nothing to fear letting them hear the real you. And if they have some constructive feedback about what might be improved, you can work on that without the embarrassment of an 'Australian Idol judges feedback' scenario.
Once you can change "..having performed a FEW times in front of people.." into MANY times, you'll have learned enough through experience to be in control of your fear.
Cheers,
Craig
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>
> Oh how I'd like to act like myself without fear! My problem
> is stage fright. Despite having performed a few times in
> front of people I still get extremely agitated for sometimes
> days before a performance. I can practice a song and do it
> perfectly an hour before going on stage, but once I'm up
> there, my mouth goes dry, I shake like a leaf and instead of
> enhancing the performace with adrenalin, I sabotage it. I
> can happily talk in front of people, give a lecture or an
> address, I even gave a eulogy once, but sing, when it comes
> to the song, it's like I'm totally exposed, like people can
> see right through me and I get through it, but it is never as
> good as I know it could be. Any tips anyone?
Perhaps you can find a sympathetic 'test audience' - a couple of friends or a group of kids or anyone you can sing to where the stakes aren't so high and it doesn't feel like 'a performance.'
This might mean singing your song in an entirely different situation; while you're in the back seat of a mate's car, or while you're walking your dog down the beach....somewhere where you're getting used to singing with people around but there's no particular emphasis on them watching you or critiquing you and it doesn't matter if you just stop. What about singing at the top of your voice while riding a bike down the street? By the time people wonder what you're doing, you've already gone past, no one recognised you under your helmet and sunnies, and anyway it's not about them, it's about you getting used to singing in public.
It doesn't sound like your fear is of the actual singing, but of the exposure. Find some low-stress ways to build up your experience dealing with exposure, and you'll find it gets easier and easier.
Also, as a confidence thing, it might be worth recording yourself singing, and then letting select others hear the recording and give feedback. You can do your best effort by singing on your own, and then all you'll be exposing is a polished tape recording. If everyone likes what they hear, you'll know you'll have nothing to fear letting them hear the real you. And if they have some constructive feedback about what might be improved, you can work on that without the embarrassment of an 'Australian Idol judges feedback' scenario.
Once you can change "..having performed a FEW times in front of people.." into MANY times, you'll have learned enough through experience to be in control of your fear.
Cheers,
Craig
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