Overcomming Self consciousness
Wed, 9 July 2003, 11:47 amWalter Plinge12 posts in thread
Overcomming Self consciousness
Wed, 9 July 2003, 11:47 amI'm a pretty shy person and i have diffuculty with overwhelming self consciusness in life but when i'm acting it's gone whether it be as a character or myself.
Anyway I'm after any advice for tackling this problem, its not a good way to go through life , I feel as if i'm watching my self all the time without being in tune to whats around me. The more I act with my immagination the more it goes but it keeps comming back when i stop using it.
Thanks
Anyway I'm after any advice for tackling this problem, its not a good way to go through life , I feel as if i'm watching my self all the time without being in tune to whats around me. The more I act with my immagination the more it goes but it keeps comming back when i stop using it.
Thanks
Re: Overcoming Self consciousness
Thu, 10 July 2003, 04:43 pmGood advice, Leah, and I take your point.
My points were really in response to how Soul was expressing the problem...as a character, they find they're not self-conscious.
Reading your response, I'd agree with you - the best approach is to be who you are. But if someone is really keen to CHANGE who they are, how do they tackle it? The character analogy might be helpful if they see the type of person they want to be, and try to act in that fashion.
'Giving it a go', as you said, and learning from experience...that's just another type of rehearsal, really.
Learning confidence and being comfortable in social situations, if you are very shy, might be a bit like taking on a new character, until you've 'rehearsed' it enough times that it starts to become comfortable.
But I think you've hit on the key is not to assume an outrageous character change which will only be seen as being fake: the outgoing personality you are trying to take on needs to be completely truthful to you...I guess really it's not a new 'character' you are creating, but a new 'script' or behaviour.
It might also be helpful to realise that the most outrageous or confident-looking people at a particular social gathering may feel self-conscious themselves in a group that is totally foreign to them....it's really just experience that breeds confidence, and then it still takes time to achieve comfort in a group.
And is self-consciousness much different to 'other-consciousness'? We sometimes worry too much about what others think or may expect...smack yourself with Leah's book and realise that in most cases, people aren't that concerned about how you appear after all - they're too busy worrying about how THEY appear to you.
Cheers
Dr Craig
My points were really in response to how Soul was expressing the problem...as a character, they find they're not self-conscious.
Reading your response, I'd agree with you - the best approach is to be who you are. But if someone is really keen to CHANGE who they are, how do they tackle it? The character analogy might be helpful if they see the type of person they want to be, and try to act in that fashion.
'Giving it a go', as you said, and learning from experience...that's just another type of rehearsal, really.
Learning confidence and being comfortable in social situations, if you are very shy, might be a bit like taking on a new character, until you've 'rehearsed' it enough times that it starts to become comfortable.
But I think you've hit on the key is not to assume an outrageous character change which will only be seen as being fake: the outgoing personality you are trying to take on needs to be completely truthful to you...I guess really it's not a new 'character' you are creating, but a new 'script' or behaviour.
It might also be helpful to realise that the most outrageous or confident-looking people at a particular social gathering may feel self-conscious themselves in a group that is totally foreign to them....it's really just experience that breeds confidence, and then it still takes time to achieve comfort in a group.
And is self-consciousness much different to 'other-consciousness'? We sometimes worry too much about what others think or may expect...smack yourself with Leah's book and realise that in most cases, people aren't that concerned about how you appear after all - they're too busy worrying about how THEY appear to you.
Cheers
Dr Craig