Infedility

This weeks poll reminded me of the time I was in a rather awkward situation. My mother was in the local theatre company's production of " Oklahoma!" and I attended a dress rehearsal of the performance. I was walking through the back corridor of the theatre when I saw Ali Hakeem (my sport teacher's husband) and Ado Annie (the married mother of a class mate of my sister) in a romantic clinche that was not part of the script. i mumbled an apology for disturbing their "rehearsal" and did not show my face backstage again. Apparently i was not the only one to stumble accross this pair because not long after my sport teacher accepted a job in Melbourne and moved with her husband and Ado Annie went through a rather nastly split with her husband.

Theatres are totally wrought with infedelity! Everyone falls in love with their leading lady/man! Its the best part of the whole thing!! Its only when the resulting "fling" hurts other people or breaks up existing relationships is it in any way bad. otherwise its all part of the fun.

In my experience we gals would be silly to fall in love with our leading men. Most leading men I've known prefer a leading man!

Infidelity can lead to bigger and better things (maybe I should rephrase that). I met my soul mate 25 years ago in an amateur theatre group in a town in WA. We were both married with children but our marriages were on the rocks. There was an instant attraction between us. We broke up from our respective spouses and when free, we married. We have been happily married for 22 years now but there have been times when my man has been in a play with an attractive woman, that a niggling thought has got the better of me. Could it happen again? I don't think it has but who knows? I know it hasn't for me.

congratulations. that almost never happens. you're 1 of only 10 women worldwide who's married lover actually had the balls 2 leave his oh-so-precious wife.
when your existing relationship with your very faithful boyfriend is on the rocks because of your other lover, u can't help but be a little pissed when your married lover is going home playing happy families despite the fact that you've unintentionally f***ed up your own relationship cos u fell in love with a married cheating sonofabitch. that's why i think if u get emotionally attached to the person you're cheating with, you're screwed. but if it's purely physical, you're fine (unless of course your loved one finds out)
the power of a mistress is very underestimated. 1 phone call & u can rip apart the brady bunch just like that. cool, huh?
hell hath no fury like a woman scorned!
kimbo the homewrecking bimbo

Ooohh - now isn't this opening up a HUGE can of worms???? Are you determined to make yourself unpopular, or is it a gift?

shutup kate whoever u r. i was merely pointing out that it's the exception 2 the rule & i was probably writing out of amazement & jealousy. but yes i do regret writing it - i was just so shocked 2 hear that a married man made good. anyway, if it wasn't 4 my verbal diarrhea you'd be bored right now. oh @!#$ i've missed the 15 mins of letterman! gotta go!

I'm not a fan of cheating on a faithful partner ... it hurts ...

Two comments Kim ..

The key words here are 'faithful boyfriend' ... which you don't deserve if you're gonna cheat AND


He's the cause, he's the 'married cheating sonofabitch' - but it takes two to tango luv - you are no better than he (remember your 'faithful boyfriend') - you chose the chearting sonofabitch and were happy to have him as your lover - so for god's sake take some emotional responsibility.

Hey! people, lighten up a bit. What started out as a very lighthearted exercise (I presume) has suddenly become very serious. Is this just another example of us thespians taking ourselves too seriously??

cya

Stuart

His "oh, so precious wife" was a cheat'n tart but I guess that didn't excuse my actions. Who is game to tell me what @!#$ (have I got it right?) means? Maybe it isn't rude at all, it's only my imagination!

"Fidelity is just another word for lack of opportunity?"
Answers on a postcard please............

Absolutely - in our recent show - there were more boy batters than females!!

Yes I would have to agree. The notorious cast party is a real outlet for those pent up emotions that have come about after months of rehearsing and being close to others. I can cite numerous examples of infidelity taking place at a handful of parties. Infidelity if rife and if your partner says they are doing a production - you better pray they won't be reproducing!!

Kimbo the Bimbo,
Your lack of ability to see any point of view but your own is a tad disturbing, and I am only critising because for a 19 yr old you seem to know oh so much about everything and should therefore, probably know better.
ps. Cheating is an offence I think should be punishable by death. Who gives you, or anyone else, the right to abuse somebodys trust???
Miss Wittersmile.

I saw an interview with a famous rock musician recently. He was bemoaning the fact that life on the road meant death to long-term relationships, adding that he wished he was an actor because they have flings which are only ever short-term, whereas musos always seem to take ages to get over any romance.

I have been told that as a muso, I make a good actor and vice versa. As a romantic, I tend to be in the muso camp and basically monogamous. I believe that any one who embarks upon an affair, no matter how frivolous, should be prepared to forego any pre-existing relationship, otherwise they are being untrue to themselves as well as the other parties involved. Vive l'amour!

I think that an interesting addition to this is - would you / could you feel comfortable that when the person `YOU' are having an affair with is not then doing the dirty on you also??

Punishable by death..... A bit rough isn't it? There are worse crimes surely!
Does this mean someone has cheated on you?
Ever been in the situation when you genuinely wanted to cheat on someone? I always thought I'd be true to my partner(s) regardless of how close I was to them, but until you're put in the position of having a genuine affection for someone else I don't think you can make a valid judgement on what you'd see as right or wrong.

i'd just like to say, as my girlfriend has been in numerous plays that i too have come to see after show party's as one big meat market and slut fest.
i love my girlfriend, but when it comes to these party's i hate her going. this may be due to the fact that i've had bad experiences, so maybe i am biased, i dont know.

i dont trust "thespians" and never will.

Mr Boyfriend

oooohhh,
someone' a bit touchy 'eh?

Can I just go on record as saying this discussion is a REEEAAALLLYYY bad idea. Talk about opening up your gaping wounds. Why don't we all agree to keep our skeletons in the closet, celebrate our relationship wins and save the shame for the middle of the night.

LEAH

PS Oh by the way, want to know my opinion on infidelity? Someone scorn me and see.

Leah Maher wrote:
Why don't we all agree to keep our skeletons in the closet, celebrate our relationship wins and save the shame for the middle of the night.

Hows about we just 'celebrate the wins' and sleep afterwards instead?

Someone scorn me and see.

Anyone in particular, or is that just a threat to anyone in general?

It's a fine line between pleasure and pain, as the Divinyls so aptly put it. Who hasn't been in a production and known someone to like someone else in the show, or been the liker, or (un)consciously been the likee? It's a terrible mess to get in the middle of sometimes. Mind you, observing a newly cooing couple rehearse can also have you reaching for the bucket. To those who have found their soulmate/love/like/phwoar lusty objects/mildly interesting people and whatever within theatre and it has stayed the distance, hearty congrats. For those who have been burnt before but yet still find themselves going back for more, it's easy to say you're not going to do it again and then find yourself smack bang in the middle once more. For those who just look on with snide looks, catty comments and cynicism, find your heart, have it broken and then maybe you'll understand what some have gone through.

From a reformed participant,

Angelfish

I was once a memeber of a theatre group where we had to sign a statment saying that we will abide my the conditions of membership. One of the conditions is "no flirting". Although an interesting way to combat problems caused by intra-cast relationships, i don't know anyone who has ever followed the rule let alone anyone who has tried to enforce it!

It is a shame that this rule doesn't work because I know from personal experience that the performance high and wonderful memories from a show can be tarnished when people get burnt. My personal belief is that if can not preven your self from falling in love with a co star, then you are not a ver good actor because you are using real passion on stage. When I have come up against the dilemma of having feelings for a fellow cast member, i make myself wait until well after the show is over to act on them. Only once have my feelings for that person continued after I am not seeing them and acting romatically with them on a regular basis.

Anyone here know the meaning of the word.........INTEGRITY?
Answers on a postcard PULEEESE..............