Why Can't Guys Like Dance and Drama?
Sun, 5 Aug 2001, 05:10 pmGilly13 posts in thread
Why Can't Guys Like Dance and Drama?
Sun, 5 Aug 2001, 05:10 pmI have participated in the Rock Eisteddfod Challenge for 2 years straight. For 2 years straight I have been called a poof, f*ck head and the like just because I am good at and like dancing. Drama also bring ridicule but not as much as dancing. For both years I have ignored what all the other guys in my year have said and done what I want because I like it, and in the theory that if I don't show that it gets to me they will stop. Part reason why I did it this year was because I wanted to show them that they weren't getting through to me and no matter what they say or do I will continue what I am doing.
If there is anyone out there who has suffered the ridicule and the hurt as much as or maybe more than I have or if there is any suggestions to help me I would be more than greatful. Comments???
Cheers,
Alan Gill
If there is anyone out there who has suffered the ridicule and the hurt as much as or maybe more than I have or if there is any suggestions to help me I would be more than greatful. Comments???
Cheers,
Alan Gill
RE: Why Can't Guys Like Dance and Drama?
Tue, 7 Aug 2001, 11:10 pmHey there,
Ok, I can sympathise with you alot of it here, because I have been there. I too have been called every name from here to kingdom come and have suffered physically as a result. But I have a trick... Which hopefully you might find useful.
Ask yourself, Do I really care what these people think? I mean, I know its hard all the crap guy actors/singers/dancers have to go through and at first you go into ya room and burst into tears and say "yes" (Hey, theres another point of interest... Why can't guys cry?) but over time you really wont care what the others are thinking.
School is one of the hardest places in the world to be who you want to be and as 'free' as it attempts to be, you still have to fit into the pre designated groups and all that jazz, and I mean, it hurts when the 'in' group who are all drop kicks with no future ahead of them say something (sorry to any drop kicks out there). There were times specifically at school where I would come home and just feel really bad with the amount of emotional and physical abuse that flew around aimed at me... But if you keep going, a fantastic life known as Uni is just around the corner. Everyone who is there are pretty much open minded and like people for who they are. And whats more, you aren't all forced into the same area at the same time. There are interest groups where you meet others who like the same things as you do, and I'm pretty sure this would apply to tafe too. All the drop kicks (who are probably closet actors and are singing away to Kylie in the shower) aren't there, and if they are, it's a big place and you hardly get to see them. Similarly with tafe, you only associate with those who you like, and anyone less intellectual is usually called a wide range of harsher obscenities!
So yeah, I mean, I can try and suggest all these fantastic things which I say will help, but you might find useful, but the next time a &^&()(&%^&*(^ says something derrogatory to ya just say to ya self "Do I really care what they think? " And soon enough, the answer will be no!
Good luck,
Email me if ya want! (unlike beck I have experience in being male and insulted ;op Still love ya beck... so email me!)
James
Ok, I can sympathise with you alot of it here, because I have been there. I too have been called every name from here to kingdom come and have suffered physically as a result. But I have a trick... Which hopefully you might find useful.
Ask yourself, Do I really care what these people think? I mean, I know its hard all the crap guy actors/singers/dancers have to go through and at first you go into ya room and burst into tears and say "yes" (Hey, theres another point of interest... Why can't guys cry?) but over time you really wont care what the others are thinking.
School is one of the hardest places in the world to be who you want to be and as 'free' as it attempts to be, you still have to fit into the pre designated groups and all that jazz, and I mean, it hurts when the 'in' group who are all drop kicks with no future ahead of them say something (sorry to any drop kicks out there). There were times specifically at school where I would come home and just feel really bad with the amount of emotional and physical abuse that flew around aimed at me... But if you keep going, a fantastic life known as Uni is just around the corner. Everyone who is there are pretty much open minded and like people for who they are. And whats more, you aren't all forced into the same area at the same time. There are interest groups where you meet others who like the same things as you do, and I'm pretty sure this would apply to tafe too. All the drop kicks (who are probably closet actors and are singing away to Kylie in the shower) aren't there, and if they are, it's a big place and you hardly get to see them. Similarly with tafe, you only associate with those who you like, and anyone less intellectual is usually called a wide range of harsher obscenities!
So yeah, I mean, I can try and suggest all these fantastic things which I say will help, but you might find useful, but the next time a &^&()(&%^&*(^ says something derrogatory to ya just say to ya self "Do I really care what they think? " And soon enough, the answer will be no!
Good luck,
Email me if ya want! (unlike beck I have experience in being male and insulted ;op Still love ya beck... so email me!)
James